What to expect
non-judgemental, knowledgeable, easy to talk to, genuine, calming, uncompromisingly biblical
These are the words that best describe Cheryl’s style, in the words of her counselees (read them here).
At your first meeting with Cheryl, you will fill out a personal inventory questionnaire (click to view) so she can better understand how to meet your needs.
At the beginning of every session, Cheryl opens in prayer, thanking God for the opportunity to work with you, and asking for His wisdom. You’ll then be able to explain yourself without judgement or interruption. Rather than subjectively telling you what to do or think, she uses insightful questions to challenge you to dig deeper for truth and solutions. When she needs to address a tough issue, she does so in a bold yet gentle manner, drawing confidence from the word of God which does not change like our feelings do.
Between sessions, Cheryl is continuously thinking, learning, and praying for you. She attends seminars, reads books and blogs, and talks with other counselors and mentors—in everything, seeking wisdom from God to enrich her counseling practice.
Description of Counseling
Your counseling will be Biblical (Christian) counseling. This does not mean that you have to be a Christian to receive counsel, but I will be using principles that come from the Bible. I received my training in both Scripture and counseling through Westminster Theological Seminary and the Christian counseling and education foundation. I am not a licensed psychologist or a licensed professional counselor. I counsel under the authority of my local church: Calvary Baptist Church, 5 Franklin Street, Somerset, NJ and Jacksonville Chapel, 264 Jacksonville Road, Lincoln Park, NJ.
The per-hour fee for counseling is $100. A sliding fee scale is available upon request.
Checks for counseling services should be made out to Cheryl A. Frueh.
Biblical counselors are very sensitive to the issue of confidentiality. The Bible repeatedly warns against gossip and indicates that trustworthy persons keep a secret. To release information without your consent would violate both commonly accepted codes of counseling ethics and Biblical standards. From time to time, your counselor may consult with another counselor in order to gain additional perspective regarding your case, but the identity of the counselee is not revealed at any time. Beyond this, your counselor is ethically and legally bound to keep confidential whatever is discussed during sessions. There are three situations, however, where it may be necessary to share certain information with others: when there is clear indication that someone may be harmed, when a child is being sexually or physically victimized, or when a person, who is a member of an “involved” church, persistently refuses to renounce a particular sin and it becomes necessary to seek the assistance of others in that church to encourage change (cf. Matthew 18:5-20).
Since our fee structure is relatively low, please do everything possible to avoid cancellations. If a session is missed without prior notice of cancellation, there will be a charge of $45.
Help between Sessions
In emergencies, I cannot guarantee that you will quickly reach me. If you have an emergency, please go directly to your local emergency room or contact your family doctor. You can, however, leave a message for me on my voice mail at 732-599-2153 or email me at [email protected] I will return your call as soon as I am able.
If you have any dispute with, or claim against your counselor, you agree to participate in a process of conciliation which involves a commitment to 1) meet with the counselor or Pastor of desired church; 2) seek to settle it by mediation; and, if necessary, 3) settle it by legally binding arbitration. Each of these steps shall be carried out in accordance with the rules and guidelines of the Institute for Christian Conciliation.